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Carl Rogers said it best: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, I can change.”

It's true. You get what you think about, whether or not you want that to be true.

The more secure you are in your own body and state of mind, the less controlling you are about the little details of your story.

Quit an old habit and start a new one? You're not a “former” or “new” anything. You're just who you need to be to accomplish a specific goal at that specific time. Whatever it is, don't bring identity into it.

The less secure you are, the more likely you'll view nonchalance, disagreements, and setbacks, as a threat, because outcomes determine the value of your identity. You're driven by emotions, not goals.

Want to have immense self-confidence? Be immensely present.

As Luigi Pirandello once wrote: 

Do you recognize perhaps, also you, now, that a minute ago you were another?